7/8/13

Cast Iron

Lovers, Others, & Friends,

It would seem that after plenty of drinking, crying, and praying these past few weeks, I awoke this morning, with a peace that passes all understanding. It is the peace of being irrevocably “OK” with who the fuck I am - regardless of who the fuck anyone else is, or their opinions of me.

In the grand scheme of things, yes, there are things I'm still discovering about myself; nevertheless, there are a few things that I am absolutely certain of and they are 1. I am fair, 2. I am kind, 3. My integrity (most days) is intact. I won’t budge on these PERIOD! So should my character EVER be of question, THIS is my foundation, this is the trifecta from which I shoot. Someone else’s opinion of me, be it based on my past or my present, is merely hearsay – it DOES NOT change who I am or what I KNOW to be true about ME. 

It is because of my fairness that I tend judge MYSELF first and most harshly so I hate to be wrongly accused or even misjudged. It is also because I am kind that my kindness is often mistaken for weakness, when in actuality, the weakness is in taking the assumed advantage. And it is because of my integrity, I think thrice about my decisions and whom they may affect – (subject to the fact that by design, I am a fucking Homosapien, not without error); although, I can readily admit when I am wrong, and apologize in earnest.

I AM NOT perfect, but I REFUSE to be STONED (by myself or anyone else)!

"I am a woman, as delicate as flesh; with a cast iron heart." I am as responsible for my successes as I am for my failures. My perpetual “big girl panties” must be worn at all times. (Figuratively of course because panty lines aren’t really attractive, while commando is a liberty that everyone has the right to exercise… discretely… on laundry day… or New Years Eve 2011 or whatever).  

What I’m saying is – KNOWING exactly who I am brings me far more satisfaction than simply “finding myself”.  It means that I am on my path and in possession of great wisdom, that my trials are not won in vain, but are a substantial victory. With what I DO know about me, it means that I can arm myself against accusations that say otherwise…


It means that “no weapon formed against me shall prosper” even when it’s of my own self destruction


Signed,
The Jawn who dranks, cusses, and quotes Bible scriptures

5/14/13

BaddestDream

Save me from myself
Don’t let me get me
Can’t trust my thoughts

Magnificently so

I’m overwhelming
I’m my own cross to bear

Defensive
Protective
Guarding my own mess

Gloriously fucked up
Can’t touch this

Feeding fantasy
Malnourished reality
Glutinous dreamer
Morbidly obese with nightmares

Greatness gone greater

The darkest parts of me reflect no light
Eyes reflecting the actual depths of my despair
Words misleading
There is hope in my smile

I’m your baddest dream

©TavyDay 2013
Unblocked?

5/10/13

BLOCKED


Poets cry over spilled ink and wasted words.

Draw blanks around subjects, predicates, and verbs.

Stew over the haiku that just won’t come out.

Makes peace with the silence.

 Proof reads over doubt.


© Tavy Day 2013

5/9/13

Curves Connoisseur...


is exactly what Author Hugh O. Smith proves to be, as he expertly navigates Tony, and Olivia through the sensitive curves of (Plus Size) dating. An intricate romance evolves between lovers, hell bent on loving 'em and leaving 'em alone - up against emotional walls as solid and as determined as their past. A past that brings them to their present, while challenging their futures.

Will Tony and Olivia hang up their hang-ups long enough to embrace the flaws of love?

Get in between these pages to find out - this is a book I could NOT put down, and neither will you!

Green Eyes and Good Hair --


-Tavy

5/3/13

The Real "Crazy House"



Just left a staff meeting and apparently my co-workers are entertained by the topic of Mental Illness and the clients that sometimes call or come into our office. Smh. This is a Public State building, that's what WE DO, we serve the public! Which means we have to be open to assist whomever walks through our doors, yet prepared enough to handle security risks appropriately (i.e. the suicide call last week).

Wtf is so funny about that! Then some jerk says, "what if the crazies are employees" and all the drones join in, in laughter - I'm like really dude!

THIS is why with ALL the effort it takes for me to just get out of bed in the morning, let alone support my family, maintain a full-time job, and commit to my purpose as an artist (living with bipolar type II disorder) - that raising awareness and "Bitch Slapping the Stigma" is my life's "mission possible". Fuck who don't like it!

4/25/13

Bow Down

Naysayers become background noise to the point where their sneers sound more like cheers, and soon - they too can't help but to applaud. 

Taking my bows in advance!


-TD

4/9/13

Curious Question - Honest Answer

Texting with a friend keen on raising her own awareness. I am thankful for her non-judgmental curiosity.